Husband
does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master. The reason
for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s
definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.
If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very
successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women
have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s
their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is
another woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s
the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one
that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will
eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his
needs.When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority.
The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when
you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even
though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.When you decide not to subject
yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what
you are doing because you are not functioning correctly.
Why did God make the woman?Making
woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He
made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he
saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His
original idea. This is reality.Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is
not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”.
There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will
make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special
advisor or someone to tell him what to do.I will make him someone to help him.
God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that
responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have
problems.I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the
Word Seminar.
Let me tell you, no husband wants
another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister,
he probably had one.Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to
your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you
don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an
older sister. A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him
(a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a
rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home
is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That
place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place
of love. It’s a place of excellence.Every wise person listens to wise voices
(advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented wisely. Everyone
rebels against the voice that is trying to make a fool out of him. When you
want to correct your husband, don’t lord it over him,present it as a wise
suggestion. Humble yourself and be smart. A wise woman will always be an
influence to her husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make
him mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be the victim.
Learn to listen to your husband,
practice it, tell yourself that you are going to do it because that is where
your beauty is.Once you stop listening, your beauty evaporates. You wonder why
you are dressing and he can’t see it, he doesn’t remember your last hair style.
Beauty is in obedience. That’s where the Glory is
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